Feb 2021 – The Silent Abuse

A Gift

Sometimes God gives you a blessing. It may hurt at the time, but eventually you can see it as a blessing. I got mine last night. He did something so hurtful, I don’t know how I will get past it. Just when I thought he could do nothing worse, he managed to inflict even moreContinue reading “A Gift”

Cognitive Dissonance

When you live your entire adult life being fed lie after lie after lie, you become numb to it. You learn to just expect it. I realized one day that I no longer believed anything that came out of his mouth. I assumed he never told the truth. If he told me he was goingContinue reading “Cognitive Dissonance”

Abuse Amnesia

I keep getting messages that I’m strong and brave. I am neither. Most of the time I feel incredibly weak and scared when discussing this topic. I’m not telling my story so that I can show strength, I’m telling it so other women can feel strong. I want them to get the courage to walkContinue reading “Abuse Amnesia”

Is there ever really an end?

I hate the phrase “’It takes two to destroy a marriage.” Sometimes it only takes one! Things at home were better with him gone. There was a definite peace about the house and the boys and I settled into a good routine. He would come home on most weekends and we would all walk onContinue reading “Is there ever really an end?”

So many lies

Infidelity trauma is real. Emotional abuse trauma is real. The insecurity, pain, and anxiety that comes from being manipulated, used, and controlled is real. Being gaslighted makes you think you’re crazy and the constant lies make you second guess everything you know is truth. This is trauma and trauma can cause PTSD. The triggers, nightmares,Continue reading “So many lies”

How to Start?

This blog has been five years in the making. It’s taken me that long to to get the courage to share my story. My story begins in 1996. I met and became engaged to a man I thought was kind, generous, and funny. He was my first and only. That meant something to me, butContinue reading “How to Start?”